Dream wrote:In fact i think it's not that hard to try to understand something you hate.
It is, though. If you hate something, you automatically shut yourself down to avoid incoming information. It is the very reason why hate exists, to avoid coming in contact with that which you hate.
For example, let's assume you hate statistics. You just dread to come in contact with it and you get a stomach ulcer when you see an equation. But you need to understand it because of the upcoming exam. So, to even understand statistics remotely, you need to open yourself up a wee bit to actually be able to delve into the subject. If you constantly yell ''I hate it, I don't want it!'', things wouldn't work. You need to have a willingness to develop a liking to the subject. And even if you don't like the subject, you do like the satisfaction that comes with having good results.
Everything happens with a reason. Most, if not all the hate in the world originates from misunderstanding and miscommunication. If a person slaps you in the face, you would hate this person. If a person slaps you in the face and you have the knowledge that this person is actually schizophrenic and has problems distinguishing what is real from what is in his head, you would not hate this person (logically anyway).
Let's take an extreme example: if a person kills someone that is dear to you, you would hate the guts out of this person. Nobody would blame you if you hate this person, want this person in jail, want him dead and don't want to see him for the rest of your life. But - strictly logically speaking - the reason why this happens is because you have closed the gate of understanding since hate has filled it up. The killer could have problems in his life that causes him to kill. He could have an illness. Or he is a sadist that likes to kill in order to hurt someone, in which case is also a form of an illness. There exist plausible reasons why this act happened, but because of the hate, this would not reach you.
My point being, how could you understand something you don't like? Human motivation doesn't work that way. It would go against the very point of hating, namely being to avoid that which you try to understand. And if you are talking about the possibility of understanding something in pure intellectual terms: of course this is possible, that would be dependent on intelligence. But it does not happen with humans because motivation precedes intellect.