Okay, see, I'm responding to something different here. The way the question was originally posed and what led to this was from somebody else, and it basically said, "would you really approach somebody in a wheel chair? They're in a wheelchair. That might be difficult, why not date somebody not in a wheelchair?" which is different than what you are asking, which I feel is a more reasonable question.brythain wrote:Well, let me offer a scenario group:SpunkySix wrote:How the heck can you be a good friend and tell somebody that their bodily limitations outweigh their personality and are too cumbersome to deal with?
1) You see this person in school a few hours a day, and you accept everything that person needs and provide it where desired and/or necessary.
2) You make every attempt to see this person all day, and you accept everything that person needs and provide it where desired and/or necessary..
3) You live with this person, and you accept everything that person needs and provide it where desired and/or necessary.
4) You are married to this person and have children with this person, and you accept everything that person needs and provide it where desired and/or necessary.
I think the levels of provision are certainly different.
However, I would say that you can be a good friend without being in a long-term relationship of romantic nature. Also, what has personality got to do with it? Or encumbrance? It's just a question: can you provide what that person needs or wants? It's not a question of whether you want to offer it—that, I assume, would be true for all your friends.
I also think it would be reckless to say "I will do this" without considering the likelihood that I -could- do this. I would certainly think, "Damn, I want to do this!" but I'd still ask myself to be honest about it.
That being said, perhaps I am a bit reckless here, but I think love needs to be a little reckless to work. If I have a stable job, then why wouldn't I be able to support this person? If I have the physical means to support somebody I love but am still questioning whether or not I'm able to do so, then what kind of partner am I? Obviously if you can't support somebody financially then that's a different issue, but we were talking about logistical difficulties before this, not finances. Anything beyond that to me is about how much you really want to be there for the person. That's how I see it.
Going back to the original question then, yes. I'd see no problem being with Rin if I somehow fell for her and had the money to support her.