Cruel irony, isn't it? Wants to interact with people, but is simultaniously terrified of doing so...
You may have a point, although frankly, I don't think *either* term applies to me. I generally enjoy both interacting with people and being on my own, albeit both in different ways. The problem is that shyness tends to disrupt the former - it's hard to meet and interact with people openly when you're terrified of strangers.
In my case, the problem seems to be a form of social hypersensitivity - unusually strong emotional reactions to how others perceive you and behave around you. Specifically, I am a geek, and I am *terrified* of showing my geeky side around anyone ho isn't a geek themselves. I have yet to meet any non-geek who didn't respond to my interests, sense of humor, overly playful/child-like personality, and general non-normal-ness with anything other than mean-spirited ridicule, alpha-male douchebaggery, or a 'WTF?' expression and a quick retreat. It's rather difficult to talk to people when you feel like you can't be yourself without being humiliated
- and since the geek-to-non-geek ratio in Real Life is abysmally low, trying to find like-minded people out there feels like an exercise in futility. It's the reason I mostly stay on the Internet, where most everyone you meet is a geek and just as weird as you are.
It would be nice to have some friends (and a girlfriend) who understand the geek mindset enough not to be weirded out by it - but that requires a way of finding like-minded individuals Out There that doesn't involve randomly striking up conversations with unsympathetic 'normies' (heh). I'm seriously considering one of those geek-oriented dating services...
Side note: this is a big reason why I like the characters in KS. The nature of Yamaku makes it a place where those who are 'different' are accepted wholeheartedly - a place where (with one scarf-wearing exception) the people are compassionate and encouraging.
I honestly cannot understand people finding a story bad just because it gave you strong emotional feelings/didn't have a happy end. If anything, it's proof that it managed to reach your subconsciousness and stir up something inside-- something difficult to do for every writer.
The key here is understanding the difference between "bad story" and "story which I dislike". The former involves lackluster descriptive prowess, unsympathetic characters, writing that fails to evoke emotion, and a general lack of respect for narrative causality.
The latter is more the result of someone's personal feelings clashing with the result of a *good* story.
Some people (like myself) dislike downer endings. In my case, it's a matter of empathy - I like getting to know people (even if they're characters in a story), and it makes me sad when *they* are sad. As long as they get their happy ending in the end I can walk away with a smile on my face
but if they get stuck with a downer ending, I feel their pain
. I'm also a strong believer in the concept of karma - if bad things happen to a good-hearted protagonist, I feel like the universe (read: the writer)is unfairly screwing them over.
I can't honestly call such a story a *bad* one - all I can do is say that I personally didn't like it. Unfortunately, a lot of folks can't differentiate between the two, and assume that anything they subjectively dislike *must* be objectively terrible.
And then they complain about it. Loudly, and often.