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by Efrath » Sun Mar 04, 2012 8:30 am
Never fallen in love either, though that's my own fault for not actually pursuing it. I'm not anti-social, but rather... I can fairly easily hold a conversation and such, but I'm just too shy to actually flirt and make any first moves and this is partly because I'm self conscious when it comes to my body. I have more or less promised myself not to pursue romance until I have a decent physique. My personal view on the matter of dating and flirting is that you should have a positive view, a sense of humor and a cheerful attitude. I do think that boys and girls alike do enjoy being with such a person.
In any case, I am still happy despite this as I honestly think you shouldn't be depressed nor sad just because you don't have a girlfriend or a boyfriend but rather be happy for what you have. Just because you don't have someone special doesn't mean you can't show love towards others nor does it mean that there's other things in life that can make you happy. I do personally believe there is something wrong in society as a whole when it comes to the view of sex. It's not that sex itself is bad but rather that people are putting more importance into it than they should. People are, at least in my opinion, taking this more seriously than they should.
First of all, sex is not love, it's something meant to be enjoyed and it's my personal belief that sex is like food in the sense that everyone has different tastes and that it's honestly a bit dumb to expect your partner to magically know your kinks, quirks and sweet spots. Keep in mind that I'm not claiming that everyone is like this, I am honestly unsure how common this view on sex is but I am assuming that it's fairly common based on the way media portrays sex in general (It's not like I've had sex with 200 girls and made graphs for each encounter, that would be terribly silly) and the fact that I've seen some people complaining about their partner's "Skill" in bed. Look, I can agree that there can be some "Skill" involved, mainly about being able to "read" your partner's reactions and such... But if you are in a relationship, you should NOT be complaining to your friends about your partner's sexual advances but rather speak directly TO your partner and talk about how sex can be improved for the both of you. The fact that sex has the goal of achieving orgasm is not one I would call positive either. I mean... Yes, Orgasms are awesome but I think people should perhaps consider that you can have sex and have a good time without achieving an orgasm. Sex doesn't *have* to be about getting an orgasm, it should be about enjoying the experience.
Now, I understand this can be troublesome for most to talk about and this is in my opinion mainly because of the way media portrays sex and making us needlessly afraid of being criticized by our partners about our abilities as sweet sexmachines, making it an uncomfortable topic for most. The fact that School has evolved so little and emphasizes on logic thinking rather both logic and abstract thinking (as it should in my opinion) as well shaping us to believe that there is only one answer to a answer to a question rather than several and making us scared of making mistakes.
Gosh, that was a bit of a rant right there, I hope I didn't sound dumb or silly in my attempt to explain my views on relationships and sex to the point of getting a bit off-topic, I'm just genuinely interested in these kind of things. I certainly am aware that I can be quite wrong in my assessments.
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