Hanako's Broken Heart Club

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by ArmedLiberal » Fri May 13, 2016 8:40 pm

YutoTheOrc wrote:
I really hope that things work out for you and your wife(especially with her MS), hopefully modern medicine can do so much as help her try to maintain a good life. One of my best friend's mothers has MS and it's in the early stages and It's not an easy dose to handle for anyone. We can only hope that it doesn't progress and simply stays the same.
MRI results came back. Similar T2 bright, non-enhancing (gadolinium contrast) lesions, and several new hypointense "blackhole" lesions on the T1 spin-echo scan. These are areas of the brain where the damage has become simply too great to repair, and so the damage is irreversible. That alone is a significant progression; she's never had any black holes before.

The bright side (if there even can be one) is that this new MRI virtually guarantees the acceptance of her Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI) application.
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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by YutoTheOrc » Sat May 14, 2016 12:28 pm

ArmedLiberal wrote: MRI results came back. Similar T2 bright, non-enhancing (gadolinium contrast) lesions, and several new hypointense "blackhole" lesions on the T1 spin-echo scan. These are areas of the brain where the damage has become simply too great to repair, and so the damage is irreversible. That alone is a significant progression; she's never had any black holes before.

The bright side (if there even can be one) is that this new MRI virtually guarantees the acceptance of her Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI) application.
You have my sympathy for the turn of events, it is truly a shame that it has progressed to that point. As you said the only good thing was the guaranteed success of her SSDI(as if that alone was worth anything in the situation really). Still, at least things won't be as bad as they possibly could. She has two sons, a granddaughter, and what I can surely tell is a wonderful and caring spouse.

Thank you for keeping us updated with your life. Even though we are not as lively and active as we once were, we still will gladly listen to anyone who needs to talk. All I can do is wish that you and your family enjoy whatever good thing come our way and handle the hard stuff best you can. :)

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by orian34 » Sun May 22, 2016 4:29 am

That's it! I can eat again!
I'm happy about that, so, hey! Happiness for everyone!
Life is only an experience so we should get the best of it!

That sounded weird, but eh, who cares?
Next time people! I guess.
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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Black Knight » Wed May 25, 2016 2:38 pm

ArmedLiberal wrote:
YutoTheOrc wrote:
I really hope that things work out for you and your wife(especially with her MS), hopefully modern medicine can do so much as help her try to maintain a good life. One of my best friend's mothers has MS and it's in the early stages and It's not an easy dose to handle for anyone. We can only hope that it doesn't progress and simply stays the same.
MRI results came back. Similar T2 bright, non-enhancing (gadolinium contrast) lesions, and several new hypointense "blackhole" lesions on the T1 spin-echo scan. These are areas of the brain where the damage has become simply too great to repair, and so the damage is irreversible. That alone is a significant progression; she's never had any black holes before.

The bright side (if there even can be one) is that this new MRI virtually guarantees the acceptance of her Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI) application.
My sympathies. Dealing with a chronic progressive disease is never easy. Have you or your wife ever heard of Dr. Terry Wahls? MS isn't my area of expertise but I came across her work while researching another autoimmune condition, and it may be worth looking into.

http://terrywahls.com/overcoming-second ... rry-wahls/

http://www.amazon.com/Wahls-Protocol-Au ... s+protocol

Best of luck.

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Shenz » Sat Aug 20, 2016 6:33 pm

So yeah...

I don't exactly know why i am posting this, there are thousands of people with much bigger and life-threatenig problems out there, but i take this chance to talk away this little problems of mine.

I've got the pleasure to grow up well beloved and wealthy, just like every person should. Besides being extremly shy as a kid, no painful events changed my life forever, nobody got taken away from me, nobody took great advantage of my inability to avouch for myself. Now, only two years away from graduating school, my shyness is hidden inside myself, for the people i'm just a quiet person, with a dark sense of humor. As an 6-year freshman i had to deal with light depressions, today i have pills and enough self-confidence to deal with that. So what's my problem? It's easy, probably everyone has a point in life where he/she has to deal with such problems. I lost the fun in life, the ability to look forward to something, i can't concentrate on todays challenge because i'm to busy worriyng about tomorrow. I hardly relax at any time, even when the body is resting, my mind is still creating horror-scenarios about tomorrows peoples reaction towards me.

Yet i'm hoping this part of life is only a short-living one, maybe my good mood will be back tomorrow who knows ...
Beside that i'm hoping that everyone's story here will lead to a good ending and i wan't to thank for the opportunity of talking away even so little problems, such as mine. Even the existence of such a thread is helpful and reminds me that there are always kind people out there.

Anyway have a great day everyone.

Ps: Sry for grammatical issues and stuff like that
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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Feurox » Sun Aug 21, 2016 8:15 pm

Shenz wrote:So yeah...

I don't exactly know why i am posting this, there are thousands of people with much bigger and life-threatenig problems out there, but i take this chance to talk away this little problems of mine.

I've got the pleasure to grow up well beloved and wealthy, just like every person should. Besides being extremly shy as a kid, no painful events changed my life forever, nobody got taken away from me, nobody took great advantage of my inability to avouch for myself. Now, only two years away from graduating school, my shyness is hidden inside myself, for the people i'm just a quiet person, with a dark sense of humor. As an 6-year freshman i had to deal with light depressions, today i have pills and enough self-confidence to deal with that. So what's my problem? It's easy, probably everyone has a point in life where he/she has to deal with such problems. I lost the fun in life, the ability to look forward to something, i can't concentrate on todays challenge because i'm to busy worriyng about tomorrow. I hardly relax at any time, even when the body is resting, my mind is still creating horror-scenarios about tomorrows peoples reaction towards me.

Yet i'm hoping this part of life is only a short-living one, maybe my good mood will be back tomorrow who knows ...
Beside that i'm hoping that everyone's story here will lead to a good ending and i wan't to thank for the opportunity of talking away even so little problems, such as mine. Even the existence of such a thread is helpful and reminds me that there are always kind people out there.
Everyone has problems to deal with, but we can't grade peoples problems on some contrived list. Your problems are as real as anyone else's so try to give yourself more credit. Everyone has ups and downs of course but you should try to remember the joys of life, even if some of those seem a million miles away. Try not to care what others think about you, I know that's easier said then done but everyone has that fear, you fear what they think and they fear the same thing. Not really caring will actually help those people just as much as it would help you. Anxiety isn't something you can wish away I know that, but if Katawa Shoujo teaches anything, for me it'd be that life isn't always fair and it's not always easy, but being a good person, living life and loving those you care about, makes that life a little easier. I hope you start to feel better soon.

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Bluecoolman » Fri Sep 02, 2016 11:23 am

Haven't posted on this forum in ages but you folks were the best when it came to nice little bits of advice for this sort of stuff.
So I've recently moved out into an apartment with a girl that I had a very large crush on (Yeah, Bad idea.) We had even discussed the feelings at one point, but it was very heavily one sided on my end.
Things are going really well with living together, we work together marvelously around here, but I still find myself falling for her more and more as time goes on.
Whats even a solution for something like this? It's starting to steal my thoughts constantly, and I'm not exactly sure how to lose feelings for somebody when you see them as much as I do.
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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Observer » Mon Jan 16, 2017 7:23 pm

I haven't posted in awhile myself, just life happens.
Blue I know what you are and it sucks. I'm in almost the same boat, but instead of living with them I text time 24/7 on account of being seven states away. long story short she knows I like her and the feelings aren't there, yet I find myself falling deep for her every day. I wish I could be more help, but I don't feel right in giving advice when I'm lost. (but hopefully it helps to know your not alone.)

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Hanabro4Life » Sun Jan 22, 2017 3:36 pm

For the guys above, my only suggestion is this: Don't hesitate to give all you've got to show them that you love 'em. They might not reciprocate it, but what's important is that you guys gave your best in order to win their hearts. In the end, if your love goes unrequited, at least, you'll know that in the end, you gave it your all, and you'll have no regrets and you'll avoid the "What if's" later on. You can also use this as an experience to build yourself up for the woman who's really meant for you.

To make things easier, just imagine that you're Hisao. You might not have arrythmia, but the least you could do is to not screw things up by wasting opportunities that come your way. You might be feeling confused with your feelings right now, but I assure you, a lot of people are going through that right now. Heck, I also went through that. But what I did was I took a bold step and hoped for the best. In the end, we're now nearing our 27th month, and we're extremely full of love and sugar. :lol: I know you guys can do it. Good luck to the both of you! We'll be here to back you up! Give it all you've got! :D

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by ArazelEternal » Fri Mar 03, 2017 11:06 pm

It seems like years since Ive read or posted in this thread. It seems to die then revive at random times.

As for me, Ive been dealing with crippling depression and anxiety as of late. There seems to be no rhyme or reason. Its just there.

Ive had to take multiple unpaid days off of work recently because it just gets so bad that I can hardly get out of bed. All I could do was break down and cry on more than one occasion, even though I do my best to hold it together. Im on meds, but at one point they seemed to stop helping at all. A couple weeks ago, I went in and talked to my doctor and got my meds adjusted. With any luck that will help. The bad thing is, I one of the many people who cant afford health insurance so I can only go see someone about it so often. Im in a free program that my doctors office has that they call Collaborative Care Therapy. Its better than nothing at all, but I only meet with the nurse who is working with me once or twice a month and they themselves arent mental health professionals. They talk with you, then they all go to the same person who heads the program who is a mental health professional. With this, each person gets help, but only so much, and only a little of it comes from someone who specializes in that field.

As of late, it feels like Ive been trying to ascend on a smooth rope with nothing to pull myself up and hold on with but my teeth. Ive tried many different things on my own. Music, games, mindfulness, exercising, walking. None of it seems to help much except for one med that I am on which I avoid taking as much as possible because its very addictive but is the only thing that seems to work sometimes.

Anyway, thanks for listening to my whining for a while.

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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Broken Yet Whole » Thu Apr 06, 2017 5:00 pm

Man, it's been a long while since I posted here. Where to begin...

Well, I'm no longer working. I'm in the middle of the process of being approved for Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI).That's taking quite a while, all things considered, but it's moving along. As well, I was in the hospital for close to a week last month due to community acquired pneumonia and spetic shock. What a fun stay in the ICU, with three different IV lines in my arms at once. It seems I have lesions on parts of my lungs, so I'm due for a second CAT Scan later this month to check on them, and potentially a biopsy given the results.

Things are pretty okay right now, all things considered. Still rather weak and sickly, thin as a skeleton, and dealing with anxiety and other issues, but I'm pulling through. Great to be back in the thread after so long.
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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Oddball » Thu Apr 06, 2017 7:02 pm

Broken Yet Whole wrote:Man, it's been a long while since I posted here. Where to begin...

Well, I'm no longer working. I'm in the middle of the process of being approved for Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI).That's taking quite a while, all things considered, but it's moving along. As well, I was in the hospital for close to a week last month due to community acquired pneumonia and spetic shock. What a fun stay in the ICU, with three different IV lines in my arms at once. It seems I have lesions on parts of my lungs, so I'm due for a second CAT Scan later this month to check on them, and potentially a biopsy given the results.

Things are pretty okay right now, all things considered. Still rather weak and sickly, thin as a skeleton, and dealing with anxiety and other issues, but I'm pulling through. Great to be back in the thread after so long.
Nice to see you back.

I rarely know what to say at these times, I hope you feel better and get well soon just seem so hokey and cliche. I'm going to say them anyway though. Glad to see you pulling through.

Sadly the forum has died down considerably while you were gone. There's still a few of us regulars kicking around though.
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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by Broken Yet Whole » Thu Apr 06, 2017 7:05 pm

Oddball wrote:Nice to see you back.

I rarely know what to say at these times, I hope you feel better and get well soon just seem so hokey and cliche. I'm going to say them anyway though. Glad to see you pulling through.

Sadly the forum has died down considerably while you were gone. There's still a few of us regulars kicking around though.
Well, it was normally fairly quiet even when I was around more often. Still, I'm doing my best to get better. Once I get approved for disability insurance, I'll be set on a source of money for a while, and I already get food stamps and such monthly as well.
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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Post by wheelman82 » Wed Apr 12, 2017 8:17 pm

So, with this recent little revival of this thread and events in my life, I've decided to post something as well. (Which you might've noticed since you're reading this :D )

Well, where to start, late last year I decided to go back to school after I stopped going about a year ago now, and well, in the beginning, it went horrible, school itself wasn't that bad, but the two half days I was going completely drained me for the rest of the day and the following days, I was too tired to even game or watch anime, leaving me with only one good day in the week. (Thursday that is, I went to school on Friday and Monday)
After I got used to going to school again it all calmed down a bit until it only drained me for the rest of the day, I was still tired the rest of the week, but not to that degree.
But then, things started to go wrong in a different way, the class I was in started to get stressed as this is the year of the final exams for many in my class, I myself would do half this year and to remaining half next year, this was also the original plan last year before I broke down (I also made my first post here not long after that, but I've changed quite a lot since then). The stress of the class also got to me, even though I knew that I could easily pass the exams in terms of skills, I was unsure about the emotional side of it, whether or not I would freeze up during the exams, I know of myself that I wouldn't be able to overcome the embarrassment of failing an exam I should be able to do with ease, I can be a very proud person when it comes to intelligence and learning capabilities, and knowing all my friends did better than me even though I am, depending on the subject, the third most to the most intelligent. (God, this is hard for me to type, I feel like I'm being an arrogant asshole) This fear completely broke me down again, up 'till the point of not being able to think about school without wanting to kill myself (I've had suicidal thoughts for years now), because of this, I've decided (together with my parents and a counselor) that it would be best to stop going to school, before things would get worse, but now I'm once again in the hopeless position I was in last year, I have no future prospects, I know of myself I wouldn't be able to hold a job anyway, and I'm one of the "lucky" people who have a supportive family and good counselling and still is in a bad way, this is one of the most depressing things about it, I can't blame my surroundings for my continued problems, the only problem is me, my handicaps and personality, this has led me to conclude that I'm broken beyond repair by my life preceding all of this.
Another reason to quit was that I was actually dragging down the people around me, especially my mother, when I feel bad I can be horribly cruel and cold-hearted, almost to the level of a sociopath, once I made her cry just because she said something dumb, I attacked (verbally) her relentlessly and the only thing I felt while she was crying was satisfaction with the power that I can still exert over others...
After I came back to my senses, I just wanted to find the nearest bridge and jump off it, not that there are any high bridges nearby but you get point...

On a somewhat unrelated note, my physical health has been improving, I've taken on walking as a hobby in the time between my breakdown a year ago and Christmas this year, and I've been trying (passively) to eat less, it has worked quite well (I think), I know that I weighed about 160kg (352 pounds) last year and now I believe it's more around the 145 kg (319 pounds), I'm 1.97m (6 feet 7) tall so it's not as bad as it looks. The only thing is, my weight loss has triggered a lot of pimples (I think that's the English word for them) to appear all over my back and chest, and some on my face and legs, about every day a new one appears, some of them are quite painful, and they can be bloody annoying :( .
Although on my last walk I noticed something that spooked me, I walked for about 3,6 km (just over 2 miles), at later stage of the walk, I felt a sharp pain in the left part of my chest, I didn't mention it to the person I was walking with, I felt the pain before, but I've always just ignored it, figuring it was just an irritated muscle or something, but this time I felt it while I was exerting myself, the pain wasn't particularly strong while breathing in or out, so that means it's probably not my lungs, so you can probably guess where this is going, although I'm quite sure it's nothing, I still fear that it might be my heart... Anyway, next time I go for a checkup for the meds, I'll mention it.

Anyway, thanks for reading this.
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