Hanako's Broken Heart Club

[Eurobeatjester]

So, a year ago I ended it with the girl I was seeing over distance and some other issues, namely her entirely overbearing mother. She got into another relationship fairly quickly and about two weeks ago the guy dumped her. I'm getting the conversations that she wants to get back together, she misses me, etc.

I do love her still, but I'm trying to explain to her that nothing has changed from a year ago so there's no reason to think something would work now. There's still a huge distance gap, I have no plans to move back to my home state, and her mother is still a constant thorn. As in, completely trying to control every aspect of her life. If she wants a relationship she needs to move away far enough where her mom can't just drop in unannounced.

I tried putting up with it. Really, I did, but after several years of the constant putdowns, talking about me behind my back, and deliberately trying to sabotage our relationship, I just couldn't deal with it anymore. She wasn't willing to stand up to her mother, so why should I?

[azumeow]

So, a year ago I ended it with the girl I was seeing over distance and some other issues, namely her entirely overbearing mother. She got into another relationship fairly quickly and about two weeks ago the guy dumped her. I'm getting the conversations that she wants to get back together, she misses me, etc.

I do love her still, but I'm trying to explain to her that nothing has changed from a year ago so there's no reason to think something would work now. There's still a huge distance gap, I have no plans to move back to my home state, and her mother is still a constant thorn. As in, completely trying to control every aspect of her life. If she wants a relationship she needs to move away far enough where her mom can't just drop in unannounced.

I tried putting up with it. Really, I did, but after several years of the constant putdowns, talking about me behind my back, and deliberately trying to sabotage our relationship, I just couldn't deal with it anymore. She wasn't willing to stand up to her mother, so why should I?

You shouldn't. My psychotic ex (the one who faked all the crazy shit, etc etc) had a mom just like that. We almost always hung out at her house so we couldn't have sex or anything Hint: We still did. All the time. She didn't trust my parents, which is hilarious because they were significantly better parents at preparing me for real life and not having the whole fucking world revolve around me. My ex did. She always thought she was god's gift to the world. Eventually, my ex convinced me that her mom was abusing her. So I stood up to her.

No. No. Just no. Don't ever do that unless you like WATCH that shit happen. She's gone back and forth on that story half a dozen times since then, and frankly, I'm not gonna bother. I got the satisfaction of breaking their front door, though. Felt kinda bad about that one. Until the second time she asked me when she should come over so I could kill her.

Here's a free life tip: If someone asks you to talk to their suicidal friend, don't end up sleeping with them. It doesn't go anywhere good.

[Charmant]

Personally, I've found the human need to always have conversations going to be a very bizarre and incomprehensible thing. Small talk is hollow nothingness for the most part anyway. That's why I like Rin's festival scene the best.

Thats about the same way i see it, still, we never met, we're just writing, so just doing nothing, well, stays nothing.
If you're on a date with someone and the conversation dies out, i think that is pretty awkward as well... but if you're just hanging out with someone, leaving the word "date" aside, silence can be good aswell..

I just got reminded of another issue i have.. messages that consist of "ah ok " and not more as a response to a response.... it's just, i always think "damn gurl, wth is that supposed to tell me?" and the next question is: Do i just, like, go on asking stuff? Do i wait if there maybe comes more? is there anything else i can do?

For those exact occasions, I have a number of cues (verbal and otherwise) that people I talk with know to translate to "I have no clue how to respond to that."

[metalangel]

Here's a free life tip: If someone asks you to talk to their suicidal friend, don't end up sleeping with them. It doesn't go anywhere good.

I'd certainly buy you a drink after hearing that, though.

[azumeow]

I'd certainly buy you a drink after hearing that, though.

Make it a smoothie or something. Me and alcohol have an ugly relationship.

[Steinherz]

Here's a free life tip: If someone asks you to talk to their suicidal friend, don't end up sleeping with them. It doesn't go anywhere good.

Kind of sounds like my one friend. He always has the habit of sticking his dick in crazy chicks.
Ranging from your standard "overly-attached" crazy to "attempts to murder your current gf with a katana" crazy the second one also happened to be a semi-popular/famous female YouTube violinist

Remember kids: Don't stick your dick in crazy.

[azumeow]

Remember kids: Don't stick your dick in crazy.

This is a lesson I'm not sure I'll ever actually truly learn. I'm dumb like that.

[Munchenhausen]

Remember kids: Don't stick your dick in crazy.

No truer words ever spoken.
I remember my ex once sent me fifteen texts after I accidentally dozed off, going from "Babe you there?" to "why wont you talk to me?" to "please don't leave me, please! what have I done please tell me?"
I woke up a few minutes later and she didn't believe I fell asleep.

Don't do crazy, kids.
Not even once.

[ogorhan]

Remember kids: Don't stick your dick in crazy.

No truer words ever spoken.
I remember my ex once sent me fifteen texts after I accidentally dozed off, going from "Babe you there?" to "why wont you talk to me?" to "please don't leave me, please! what have I done please tell me?"
I woke up a few minutes later and she didn't believe I fell asleep.

Don't do crazy, kids.
Not even once.

Haha reminds me of Yuno Gasai from Mirai Nikki.

[metalangel]

You don't even have to stick your dick in to get some of that... I am currently on the receiving end of crazy from a girl who told me I was a bad friend, removed me on Facebook and does not and will not remember doing either of these things. It's not the first time either so I am not responding.

The worst part is I didn't even get to stick to my dick in, and she was expecting me to! I had a few "you didn't try anything, I wondered why". Maybe because you have a boyfriend and you said he'd dump you if you cheated?

Bishes be cray cray.

[Charmant]

"Don't stick your dick in crazy" is probably good advice...But then, think of all the fun you'd miss out on! How many people can say they witnessed a crazy bitch running amok with a katana?

[Eurobeatjester]

Only time I stick my dick in crazy is at conventions where I'm two thousand miles away from anyone who cares

[LilyKitsune]

The other side can be scarier. Never let crazy stick anything in me, and that didnt stop two from stalking me online. Much more difficult to avoid, apparently.

Pretending to be strangers talking to me out of the blue in order to "convince me i should be with them"

[Zarys]

I really don't get how the attention of a girl could be bothering unless she is ugly.

[ogorhan]

I really don't get how the attention of a girl could be bothering unless she is ugly.

Oh idk maybe cuz they are bothering you, annoying you, stalking you, you dont like them and thats just a few of the many reasons.