Broomhead wrote:Eeeh... I agree with her to some degree. TBH, I may classify as both a nice guy and Nice Guy occasionally.bhtooefr wrote:Also, I'd say it's worth everyone in this thread reading this... http://divalion.livejournal.com/163615.html
I am not rude to every one I meet, but I'm also not willing to talk unless you have something important/interesting to say. I will warm up to someone I want to or can connect with. That is basic human interaction. So... if opening up to someone you like and/or want to like you is dickish, sue me. I don't think it's evil, but I test as Kira 90% of the time on anime personality tests. I also have a "Huge Chip on my shoulder" about Middle School. Not against the female gender, but it definitely affects how I act. I offer dating advice as well. If someone talks about their boyfriend being a dick constantly, I will just say, "Doesn't matter what he says or how he'll change next week, dump him. You are not responsible for him." I don't imply they should date me. And of course, if a girl turns me down after a relationship, depending on the circumstances, I may or may not talk to her again. I'm fine with just being friends, but if they do something heinous, or if I grow to dislike them, then I will burn the bridge.
I suppose it just comes down to judging intent, in that case. I'd just like to warn that "Nice Guys" and nice guys are often two sides of the same coin, +/- a few motives or life experiences.
Well that's the point of the article that many men have a nice guy tendency and this is not something monstrous.
The only problem with this concept is that it can create a paranoia against people who are just awkward without being wicked, example : sometimes when a girl call a guy "creepy", he is really creepy, but some girls call every guys that they find not good enough for them "creepy", soo, it varies.
I also see what the article means about the "Friendzone" but some women want to be "friends" with all the guys they have dated but rejected (and I can understand that hang out a woman as a friend when you love her is too painful, what is wrong with that ?), or even are more ambigous to enjoy the dates paid by the guy....Life is more complicated than "nice guys against sllut girls" and there are weird manipulators of each sex.
And honestly, most people who are bad in seduction , are just less attractive and eloquent than most people; their personality and kindness is completely out of it. (Most people I know in this case are just unattractive and have poor shape because of things they can't fix)