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Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 1:37 am
by Xanatos
Dream wrote:
Xanatos wrote:I look forward to nuking his house from orbit if he even thinks of saying that.
Wait, of saying he got friend-zoned, or saying he waited too long?
The first one.

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 1:39 am
by Umber
Dream wrote:
Xanatos wrote:I look forward to nuking his house from orbit if he even thinks of saying that.
Wait, of saying he got friend-zoned, or saying he waited too long?
"I'm sorry, you're just too good of a friend," or "I'm sorry, you should've asked me last week"?

[/valiant attempt at not being pessimistic about the outcome of Shadowstalk's venture]

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 4:53 am
by pandaphil
Okay, okay, Maybe I'm thinking of older people and long term relationships. But I just think you should get to know a person and find out if you have similar interests in common and maybe do fun stuff together before you start trotting out words like "love" or "girlfriend".

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 5:15 pm
by Xanatos
pandaphil wrote:Okay, okay, Maybe I'm thinking of older people and long term relationships. But I just think you should get to know a person and find out if you have similar interests in common and maybe do fun stuff together before you start trotting out words like "love" or "girlfriend".
You're exactly right.

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 6:33 pm
by metalangel
pandaphil wrote:Okay, okay, Maybe I'm thinking of older people and long term relationships. But I just think you should get to know a person and find out if you have similar interests in common and maybe do fun stuff together before you start trotting out words like "love" or "girlfriend".
You don't trot those out when you're on romantic dates with kissing and everything!

Spend too long 'getting to know a person' and you risk hearing that they value your friendship too much to chance a relationship and then breakup removing you from their life altogether. No, you can forever be there to hear about all the jerks she'll date instead breaking her heart.

(sorry, I'm in a bitter and cynical mood today)

What I'm saying is that if there's an attraction then go for it!

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 6:36 pm
by Xanatos
metalangel wrote:
pandaphil wrote:Okay, okay, Maybe I'm thinking of older people and long term relationships. But I just think you should get to know a person and find out if you have similar interests in common and maybe do fun stuff together before you start trotting out words like "love" or "girlfriend".
You don't trot those out when you're on romantic dates with kissing and everything!

Spend too long 'getting to know a person' and you risk hearing that they value your friendship too much to chance a relationship and then breakup removing you from their life altogether. No, you can forever be there to hear about all the jerks she'll date instead breaking her heart.

(sorry, I'm in a bitter and cynical mood today)

What I'm saying is that if there's an attraction then go for it!
Spend too little time getting to know a person and...You won't know the person. Strangers make for shitty partners.

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 7:42 pm
by metalangel
All the more reason to go on some dates with them! :o

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 8:05 pm
by Selim Bradley
Xanatos wrote:
metalangel wrote:
pandaphil wrote:Okay, okay, Maybe I'm thinking of older people and long term relationships. But I just think you should get to know a person and find out if you have similar interests in common and maybe do fun stuff together before you start trotting out words like "love" or "girlfriend".
You don't trot those out when you're on romantic dates with kissing and everything!

Spend too long 'getting to know a person' and you risk hearing that they value your friendship too much to chance a relationship and then breakup removing you from their life altogether. No, you can forever be there to hear about all the jerks she'll date instead breaking her heart.

(sorry, I'm in a bitter and cynical mood today)

What I'm saying is that if there's an attraction then go for it!
Spend too little time getting to know a person and...You won't know the person. Strangers make for shitty partners.
Romance is confusing.

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 8:16 pm
by Umber
Selim Bradley wrote: Romance is confusing.
Spend too long, they lose interest/don't want to risk losing you. Spend too little, they feel like it's too fast/make assumptions on God knows what.

Honestly, if it feels right, go. Said the brain.

Don't trust your instinct, think things through. Said the gut.

Romance is confusing, indeed.

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 8:19 pm
by Selim Bradley
Umber wrote:
Selim Bradley wrote: Romance is confusing.
Spend too long, they lose interest/don't want to risk losing you. Spend too little, they feel like it's too fast/make assumptions on God knows what.

Honestly, if it feels right, go. Said the brain.

Don't trust your instinct, think things through. Said the gut.

Romance is confusing, indeed.
To paraphrase a line from the animated film Over The Hedge:
"My gut says listen to my head. My head says listen to my gut. All I end up with is an upset heart."

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 8:54 pm
by pandaphil
That's why you don't do friend stuff long enough that you turn into a BFF. Maybe a few dates, just long enough to find out if you have enough in common to make it work, then you let her know how you really feel.

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 9:36 pm
by Shadowstalk
Hello everyone, you've been seeming to have a lot of fun with this topic :lol: Sorry to be such a partypooper, but she apparently got really sick, and stayed at home the whole day. I would have brought her some alphabet soup, but she just would have choked on the D :lol: Anyway, just to clarify, I know this girl somewhat well. We're not on some BFF level as some suggested, but I'm also not on the stranger level either. I feel we have good enough compatibility to have a relationship. I guess tomorrow will tell us 8)

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 9:39 pm
by Xanatos
Shadowstalk wrote:but she just would have choked on the D
Pray she never learns you said this. :lol:

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 9:43 pm
by pandaphil
In that case Shadow, I'd say its time to go for it!

Re: Hanako's Broken Heart Club

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 9:49 pm
by Shadowstalk
Xanatos wrote:
Shadowstalk wrote:but she just would have choked on the D
Pray she never learns you said this. :lol:
She's kind of a science nerd, so I thought to myself "I'd like to be DNA polymerase, so I can unzip your genes"
:lol: I think I have a little too much free time