That's what I suspected, circumstances change a lot.the little that you said in your previous post gave a different impression and that's probably why Potato reacts like this.(Although, ideally, you don't have to justify yourself on a forum, I agree)azumeow wrote: They don't even know about this. I don't tell anybody because I know it will destroy any kindnesses they have for my ex. As much as she deserves it, I'm trying not to be a bitter asshole filled with hatred. And, I'll simplify it as to why I don't hate him for it: She lied to him and tricked him into thinking that it was okay. When he found out, he was infuriated just as I was and barely spoke a word to her. We resolved it between ourselves.
I also agree on your views on gossip. (some people want almost ruins the lives of their ex, I understand your reaction), and those who want to be friends with you but want that you leavethe people they don't like, are rarely true friends.
I kinda had the same thing, but with time, I've realized that most were not even really bad and not just arriving to be more subtle (and rejected several who could have been friends if I had been more tolerant), but I confess that I have seldom been bullied, so my view is perhaps more positive. (a quiet classroom with mostly girls help, I have often heard that American schools are quite violent so this may explain why I se here many complain about it while I have rarely suffered from bullys)There are plenty of very visual warning signs to a panic attack about to happen. Misha obviously wouldn't notice them because she has the social grace of a jackhammer, but Shizune should be more attentive, especially since she knows about Hanako's behavior, her disappearances and her general social awkwardness. I've been in Hanako's situation multiple times before, and it's almost always the same thing: people being rude without realizing it because they think they know everybody and they think they can be buddy-buddy with everybody around them. I've had people shove me against a wall then be confused when I freak out, I've been held in a choke hold from behind "just to see what would happen" and continuously touched despite desperately physically distancing myself from the person touching me. Things that "normal" people tolerate because they don't want to be seen as confrontational are, in reality, others pushing people's boundaries out of either ignorance, malice, or a simple lack of caring about the consequences of their actions.
For Shizune, yes and not...in his manner, she is not very socially gifted. (communication problems that make her brutal); I think that Shizune and Misha are a good exemple of the type of person who without being bad, cannot communicate with people like Hanako. (Miki surely too, she's nice but I really don't see how someone like her could not rush Hanako)
And why those are brutal in their communication, would be more responsible in the manner of being than those who are introverts ?
But it's true that too many people are just careless (and are exagerated brutal for people many much less difficult to handle than Hanako) .. maybe it's me who is too nice and too justifies people who hurt me.
Yes it is a matter of nuance, I have some indulgence for Lilly because she seems to understand it but don't show it enough. (except in the end of the Lilly Route and in the Hanako Route when she warned Hisao about her birthday)No, Hanako's not perfect in her misanthropy. Of course she isn't. I don't know where this tangent came from, but I'll answer it nonetheless. Yes, Hanako has problems. Yes, she may need help. What she doesn't need is people patronizing her and pretending that she's a fragile child. It's rude, to use your own words, it's dehumanizing, and it's aggravating when everybody treats you the same way.
We must realize that in a outside perspective, it's not easy to understand, Hisao himself understands it late. (but it acted with equal shades unconsciously since the beginning, I would say he has the both trends "treats her as your true friend and treats her as a broken doll" and which win depends on the final choice)
