Well, to put it in metaphor of the game, they were treating you like Hanako, when you were really Hisao. Sometimes it's right to give people space, but it's too easy to think "I'm no psychologist, I'll probably just make it worse", "I'm no white knight", or "I have enough problems myself". Just hanging out a bit with the grieving person is often enough really, until the person is ready to talk about it. Some professional or spiritual counseling might be needed too, but going "welp, let's back off everybody" if often wrong.danyo wrote:Yeah, I understand what you're saying, and I believe you, but in my case, when I had that break up, I was very depressed and lonely. I wasn't really looking for company, but all of my friends knew what happened, but afterwards, I realised, not a single one of the came over, or even send me a text to ask how I was doing, no one seemed to care.
Well, you know this already, but just saying for other people reading the thread.
Did you care about them though? Did you need them?Raburesu wrote:Oh, don't get me wrong, I don't rule out the possibility that I was missed. In fact, I'm sure that I was. The problem is that I don't care. Like I said, the only people I need are those who need me.
Did you try to include yourself in those plans at the time? Perhaps they thought they knew you better than they really did.Raburesu wrote:People who make plans amongst themselves right in front of you, ignoring your very existence and excluding you for no adequately explored reason are patently worthless, and not needed.
Could one say that your relationship to each other stayed as if you were still little kids? I don't have a close relationship to anyone from that age, except my family.Raburesu wrote:Logical. But for me, we're talking about people I've known since I was 5, with whom I was never able to get any closer to in over a decade. I suppose we never really tried, though. Also, I'm somewhat indifferent towards the matter. Everything we ever experienced together was frivolous.
Well, not everyone needs to have tons of friends and be the center of attention. If you enjoy solitude, what's wrong with it? Beyond the societal expectation that you should have best friends?AnonymousOfNorway wrote:Me having something better to do sounds hilarious to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm overtaken by loneliness from time to time, but I'm also the type of person who enjoys being alone (probably due to being alone in the first place), so my social life is nonexistent, and everyone knows that. I left because I knew everyone would get the message. "Miss me? Come find me."
Would you say that you've never had a really close friend?